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Laura's articles are published monthly on the San Dimas Community News, the La Verne Community News, the Glendora Community News, and the Azusa Community News. She is also a regular contributor to The Messenger, a Spiritual newspaper operating within the greater Los Angeles area and online editions.

Please feel free to share her articles and other publications with your friends and family. All that she asks is that you please include the credits at the bottom of the article. Laura would love to hear from you whenever you share her writings with others.

Month of May/June 2009
Creating Loving Relationships 

To create loving relationships, we need to start by evaluating our own relationship with ourselves. How are we loving and honoring ourselves? Are we constantly judging and putting ourselves down? Are we so hard on ourselves, that in our eyes, we can’t do anything right? If this is so, there is a big possibility this is also how we are treating others around us. 

Let’s start by embracing who you are. Give yourself a break and decide that today is a new beginning for how you see and treat yourself. Today, know that where you are in life is exactly where you’re supposed to be. Today you let go of the past. Let go of yesterday’s mistakes. Let go of what you didn’t accomplished. Let go of guilt, self condemnation, and fears, so that you can close that door of the past and start new. Slow down and enjoy the moment.

Once you start loving and embracing yourself, you will find it much easier to love and embrace everyone else. It will be much easier to be compassionate and forgiving. 

Here are a few things to try:

  • Look for the good qualities in your spouse, partner, mother, father, kids, and everyone else, including each of your employees or your boss. This will work much better than always pointing out faults and mistakes of others. 
  • Appreciate even the little things anyone does for you. Appreciation opens the door to people appreciating you as well. Be verbal about your appreciation of them. 
  • Try to love without conditions or expectations. This will save you from being disappointed. How can you be disappointed when you have no expectations of others? Do everything out of love. Forgive and forget. Do not get stuck in the past. 
  • Always remember, you cannot change anyone. You can only change yourself. When you change yourself, your world “will” change. This is a Law of this Universe. 

At this end of this lifetime, we review our lives based on how loving we were, how compassionate, how forgiving. It’s all about relationships with ourselves and others. At the end, we are here to remember we are all One. Nothing else will matter much.

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Laura Bonilla, C.Ht. is a Licensed Spiritual Coach, Hypnotherapist, and Reiki Master/Teacher. Laura’s holistic approach is to bring the Spirit, Mind and Body into Oneness. Through her private practice she helps people be successful in life. For private sessions, information about her workshops or to buy her Self Hypnosis CDs please go to or contact her online. You can always read her articles and archives on her website. All her materials are copyrighted © 2020. Reprints allowed with credits intact.