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Laura's articles are published monthly on the San Dimas Community News, the La Verne Community News, the Glendora Community News, and the Azusa Community News. She is also a regular contributor to The Messenger, a Spiritual newspaper operating within the greater Los Angeles area and online editions.

Please feel free to share her articles and other publications with your friends and family. All that she asks is that you please include the credits at the bottom of the article. Laura would love to hear from you whenever you share her writings with others.

Month of May 2010 
Remembering Your Purpose in Life

by Laura Bonilla
Spiritual Coaching and Hypnotherapy 

Many people come to see me because they feel “stuck”. Others feel “disconnected”, “lost”, “confused” “frustrated”. Can you relate to them? Each of us is trying to find our place in this world, in society, we’re trying to find our purpose in life, to be happy. In a deeper sense, what we are really trying to find is “ourselves”, our “Higher Selves”. Let me explain.

In many societies, especially here in the West, great emphasis is placed on “success”. Success in the West is mainly defined by financial success, by having a ‘great’ career, or perfect relationships. It is what we know as “The American Dream”.

So, we start feeling as a ‘failure’ when this “success” is not achieved. There is family, friends, and/or society pressure to meet certain expectations. With this feeling of failure come depression, frustration, anxiety, and a feeling of being stuck.

Then we start wondering what our “life purpose” is and why is that we can’t put our arms around it. What is it? Where do we find it? Most of us may be under the impression that a “life purpose” is something “big”, “monumental”. We may be thinking we must be changing people’s lives, or publish a best-seller, or be some type of celebrity, or be wildly rich, to achieve our “purpose”. We determine that we “will” be happy when this is achieved, but this never comes. Why? Because this is not what life is about, this is not what “our” purpose may be. Our purpose is our soul evolution and has little to do with what we “do” in this life. It’s more related to what we “are”, is more about “being” than “doing”.

I know we were taught it was about “doing”, “being successful” and this would bring happiness. Let’s stop for a moment and consider the many examples in this world of people who we may know, who may not ‘have’ a lot, or may not have a very accomplished career, but there is a sense of happiness about them, a sense of joy that surrounds them. On the other hand, we all know of the CEO with a broken family, a workaholic lifestyle, involved in work politics, and very unbalanced life. He may have a successful career, but is he happy?

There is nothing wrong with “having”, with having money, lots of it, and nothing wrong with the great career. What I’m saying is deeper than this. What I’m saying is that this is “not” what life is about. This is not necessarily equated to our happiness. Happiness and true life purpose are more related to our inner state of being. That’s why I am saying it is about “being”.

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Laura Bonilla, C.Ht. is a Licensed Spiritual Coach, Hypnotherapist, and Reiki Master/Teacher. Laura’s holistic approach is to bring the Spirit, Mind and Body into Oneness. Through her private practice she helps people be successful in life. For private sessions, information about her workshops or to buy her Self Hypnosis CDs please go to or contact her online. You can always read her articles and archives on her website. All her materials are copyrighted © 2020. Reprints allowed with credits intact.